Let It GO!!

There is always an inspiration behind whatever new creation we do. So behind my blog my friend is my inspiration. We were just simply discussing the different aspect of human’s life… and that’s how we popped in discussing about SECRETS”, it’s universal fact that we all have secrets…

So here is the crux of our very fruitful discussion. J

There are two types of secrets in human’s life… One is “SHAMEFUL SECRETS” and other is “GRACIOUS SECRETS”

Shameful secrets are such which are embarrassing and which we don’t want to keep with us any longer. They can be related to some person or some moment. We must always let go such secrets. But the question that arises is “HOW”

Well… nothing comes so simply in life. And so is the case with let go process.

The first thing my friend asked me was Do you believe in GOD?

I said “yes”, and then he asked me do you believe in his BIG TRICKS. He is a big time player.

I replied “yes I believe in him “

Then he told me… before going to sleep just take out 10 mins and start recalling all your secrets that made you feel embarrassed or made you cry. Just observe, don’t open your eyes. It’s harsh that I know but just go for it.

And after sometime remembering whosoever you follow start breathing in. and when releasing it “START SURRENDERING IT ALL TO THE SUPREME POWER”

I felt so good after listening to him that I got anxious to know what can be this GRACIOUS SECRET.

Gracious secrets are those secrets which made us feel good, made us laugh, and made us cherish the bonds. They can be related to some people or some events.

It’s human tendency to keep the good memories with them all there life.

But at some point it becomes necessary to let go the good memories too, because if we get attached to good memories comprising of people or events or moments then we tend to fall in “THE EXPECTATION MODEL”

Humans start expecting from others real fast.

It’s always good to let go good memories as well because the people who gave us the good memories might as well change with time and at that time we will be saddened or we will fight or will crib upon. That he or she has changed.

So same is the process to let go good memories as well. We must surrender everything to the SUPREME power because whatever we get in life is one of his creations.

Why worry, there should be laughter after the pain
there should be sunshine after rain
these things have always been the same
so why worry now!

Just LET IT GO!!! J

superficial vs grounded state

Today just for some reason I had this feel that I should pen down my feelings… so just trying to make it as simple as possible to express...

Life goes through many stages

Sometimes it teaches you, sometimes you give it a fight and sometimes you just let GO. There is a very famous saying “Love comes and go but friendship stays. love is another form of friendship” sometimes we take love too seriously and sometimes we take friendship too seriously but many times we fail to decide whether what we feel for the person is love or friendship..

I recently had a conversation with a dearie friend of mine and the crux that I could get out of it was interesting enough that I thought to share it.

It goes like: “in friendship we go through two stages one is SUPERFICIAL STATE and other is GROUNDED STATE “but you know when the discussion started I thought what this superficial and grounded could be. Then my friend while making it clear to me said SUPERFICIAL is that state in which we give so much of importance to friends that we stop thinking rationally and stop considering that changes are meant to happen. Friends are a part of life but we give it a superficial resemblance to life. Friend is not someone who will stay with you every time but will be with you whenever we need them. They will do their bit in composing your caught off balance life. We forget to keep a perfect balance in life.

GROUNDED is that level where you are sufficient for yourself. If nobody is there at least you are there for yourself. This doesn’t mean one has to live in isolation but you donor need people to make you feel good... you are your best friend.

In this you listen to everyone but you do what you think you should do. Friends are important but how much importance you want to give them is in your hands.

Everyone meets the categories of friends in their lifetime out of which some are good , very good , loving , caring , encouraging , discouraging , backstabbers , jealous , desperate , dumb , playing dumb , morons , liars but it all depends on you to decide whether you want to keep all of them or just few and that too which extent .

This discussion made me think what to do and how to react but one think I have learnt out of this was that I am still living in the superficial state and yet to attains the grounded state. Cannot say which one is better but second one surely sound promising.

If I comment on the second state being the kind of Deepti I am right now will say “hibernation” but again that will be superficial Deepti who value her friends more than her, who love them more than her, who cares for them more than her.

I am hopeful that the crux will surely help in getting out the fear of losing friends and will help in taking better decisions J J